What is Life Efficacy?

Life.   Most people experience some good times, some hard times and some monotonous periods of their life.   The big question becomes… are you able to thrive?    To thrive means to grow; to develop; to flourish.   To thrive means to be able to recover from hard times.  Thriving in the game called life is what we refer to as Life Efficacy.  Some features of Life Efficacy are:

Healthy Relationships

A healthy relationship is one in which each party can be their true self with no dishonesty, no pretention, and neither has an air superiority.   You can share your deepest thoughts and emotions with each other because you don’t fear reprisal or broken confidence.   You have interests that are similar yet you affirm each having separate interests and give each other space to enjoy those interests with other friends.   You respect each other’s privacy. There is mutual trust and dedication to the health of the relationship and to each other individually.

Other features of a healthy relationship include the ability to repair the relationship in the event of a rough time.  You treat each other with respect through the relationship which provides a basis for getting through difficult times.  You are able to recognize each other’s strengths and weaknesses and build each other up.  You can make sacrifices for each other

Healthy Self Esteem

According to WebMD, “self-esteem is a person’s core belief about himself or herself. A person’s self-esteem is reflected in his or her actions, both in how as well as what he or she does. Although self-esteem varies from time to time, the pattern usually leans toward a healthy or unhealthy view of self. With healthy self-esteem, a person is more likely to succeed in life.”

Some of the characteristics displayed by those with a healthy self-esteem are:

  1. Having a healthy attitude toward mistakes.  Being able to learn from one’s own mistakes and being able to make amends when the mistake involves another person.  Also being able forgive yourself and others.
  2. Being able to recognize and accept differences in other people.  One with a healthy self esteem can listen to other points of view and rationalize the value of the differences without demanding likeness to one’s own views.
  3. They assume responsibility for their own happiness and fulfillment.  They take care of themselves: physically, emotionally, and spiritually.  They assume responsibly for managing their life.  They choose continuous self-improvement yet can find a balance between being and doing.
  4. They are able to give and receive love with no strings attached.

Healthy Self Management

A easy to follow system has been created to help people and organizations evolve.   Paul J. Meyer mentions this system, called S.M.A.R.T. goals, in Attitude is Everything, However, the same system has been mentioned in many articles including an article in AMA’s publication Management Review back in 1981.   The power of the system is that it can be applied to small individual task and to large organization Strategic objectives.

At the core of SMART goals is applying the parts of the acronym to tasks and objectives.  The acronym is

S = Specific.  Goals need to clear and unambiguous.  The more details that get specified, the easier it becomes to track progress.   “Become smarter” lack specificity.   “Learn to be conversant in the Spanish language” is very specific.

M = Measurable.  In order to be able to tell that progress is being made, an objective must have a means to measure the progress.  The best way to measure progress is to find a way to measure that is obvious to those within and outside the goal.  For example, “dollars revenue” is a clear measurement of a company’s place versus their competitors.

A = Attainable.  The third feature of a SMART goal provides the realism to the goal.  Goals shouldn’t be impossible to reach as it will discourage people and cause them to give up success.  Likewise the goal shouldn’t be so insignificant that one wonders why the goal is even relevant.

R = Relevant.  It is important to have goals that matter.  Some questions one may ask about relevancy are:  is the effort toward the goal worthwhile?  Is there some value to be achieved in succeeding at this goal?

T=Time-bound.   Goals need a time frame to build a sense of urgency of doing something different and also to ensure accomplish the goal is built into one’s day to day activities.  The length of time is less important than the idea that progress is being made towards achieving that goal on a regular basis.